Love Isn’t Easy…
Since starting this website, Neeraj and I have both learned a lot from others’ experiences. We hope that many have learned from reading our experiences as well. Whenever I receive a Yahoo message from someone who has seen our website, many will tell their love story or how their story matches with ours. Many stories that I have heard have not had the perfect ending as that person might have wanted, while others have succeeded beyond belief. Many wish us luck that we will fulfill what they might have not gotten the chance to do in their own life.
What I might have not told many that sometimes I wish I would have is that being in love is not easy, and it certainly hasn’t been easy for Neeraj or me. We have faced those obstacles where many others (or even the average) might have given up their relationship on (many have told me that they have given up as well). Everything hasn’t been simple and smooth as even the both of us would have liked it to be. This is an important realization because its you, as a couple, that holds your relationship’s fate. If at any time either one of us would have felt weak and given up, then today we would not be where we are (on the verge of engagement/wedding). Until that sacred day comes, we know that we will stay face problems because the route we have taken to build our relationship (i.e. Internet) was not the route that our family might have thought for us.
Internet love, as weird as it sounds, is the hardest type of love to be in because your interaction has only been virtual. Meeting that other person face-to-face is essential (our belief) for any relationship to grow because that’s when you learn if that person is what you have dreamt or have pictured in your mind. Even the impossible (i.e. Hindu/Muslim, people in two different countries, married/unmarried) is possible but until you see the facial reactions and the body language of that person, its hard to decipher what message your love is trying to convey.
This post is written for those that read our story and think that these two had everything made for them. It was not that at all as Neeraj and I worked hard to build our relationship and our future. What we have done, you and your partner can do too, but its a joint effort. Nothing comes easy in life (it hasn’t for us), its best to know that and move forward.
If you trust and believe in your relationship — then no one can stop you. On the first day of the new year, wishing all those couples a beginning of a wonderful feeling that we call love.
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November 14th, 2004 at 4:11 am
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
Love don’t come easy
But it’s a game of give and take
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
Just trust in a good time
No matter how long it takes
- Phill Collins
November 14th, 2004 at 4:28 am
…. may b this was the reason that I posted ur about us link @ my site (in a thread talking about long dist. relationships) & I could relate to it.
I don’t think any relationship comes easy…be it internet or aamne saamne but i-love is definetly a harder path. If u believe in urself (n ya partner) then u can walk on this path.
I think i-love will be the next happening thing. I already have more frnz online than I have offline :P
November 14th, 2004 at 8:13 pm
I didn’t happen to see that thread that you are referring to on your website Gaurav, do send me the link. Aamne saamne relationships are easier than Internet love in my mind. But in the same reference, Neeraj and I both believe that we wouldn’t be as close if we would have been living in the same city and all. The Internet did bring us closer because we were able to freely speak about anything and plus we were able to spend more time with each other than we would aamne saamne. There are plus and differences but falling in love on the Internet is difficult especially if you have dreamt your partner is one way and he/she turns out something totally different.
Thanks for your good thoughts Gaurav!
November 15th, 2004 at 2:35 am
The link is not at my personal site but Bollywood Mantra {It requires registration to read coz it has member’s personal stuff.}
The people who read it thought it was sweet. If u want I can copy paste the comments here.
November 15th, 2004 at 3:59 am
Hmmm interesting post :)
the i-love is already happn in a big way all around the world incl india.
My frnd his now wife on the internet. The hard part was convincing their parents who were a lil baffled ab ‘meeting’ on the internet thing… but phew things worked out fine for them n they are happily married now.
On a personal level… well i had met a girl on the net n we went around for 3 years… it was tuff but not so bad as we would meet like thrice a year when she would come to bby… things didnt work out for a diff reason…:no:
but i am still hopeful n wont be surp if i do meet someone online…
Poonam, whoever reads this blog would know only the things u write but wouldnt know ab the hardship u both must hv gone thru since u never write ab them… so its easy for them to assume that u had it easy… I think its more diff for a girl to convince her parents n hats off to u Poonam for standing by what u wanted…
I am really glad that things are working out fine for u. TW.
i hope n pray that u both hv a wonderful time together… forever…
November 15th, 2004 at 4:13 am
Just read that about us page today actually didn?t read it earlier
My first reaction was surprised I mean have heard of people fall in love on net but never came across anyone who did until I found this Blog?.. Earlier use to think it was strangest thing to do? and never believed it could happen and thought how people could be so insane to fall in love on net it seemed absurd :eyebrow:but after reading the about us page it seems true and believable
I feel it?s a Sweet love story, and I think it was nice of you to share with everyone, I think u should book this domain name for decades to come.. .. Can show your grandchildren?s some day they would really be proud of you all..
November 15th, 2004 at 5:19 am
o Yeah pls dont let this domain go ! it doesnt cost much… u can renew it at like just Rs 400/year !!!
November 15th, 2004 at 10:42 am
Kunal, thanks very much for all of your kind words. We really do appreciate it.
That’s great about your friend and his wife meeting on the Internet. i think it is something that will grow. I know that Neeraj and I still have a hard time telling others that we have met on the net just because it still seems odd (especially to our families, just like u said).
Both of our parents believed that we were just friends, but then we had to explain that it was something more than that. To this day we are still fighting this problem.
I am sorry to hear about your own situation with that girl.
But you are right, it can happen once again that you will meet someone else on the net. 
I think that was the main reason for my post Kunal was that I didn’t want to divulge into the problems that Neeraj and I have faced but just try to explain that we haven’t had it easy at all. Sometimes i get messages from random people who have seen the site that are envious…but i can’t go telling them my Ram Katha from the beginning. So its important for everyone to know that for us, this has definitely been the hard road comparatively if we would have taken the traditional route.
So now if someone has anything to say about how easy Neeraj and I have had it, I will just tell them to read this post.
Puneet, let me tell you that Neeraj and I were in the same boat as you were. We would have never thought that we would have fallen in love in this manner because neither of us believed in Internet love. But four years later, here we are.
Its amazing Puneet the stuff that you can talk about on the net that we would have never discussed if Neeraj and i were living in the same city and meeting once or twice a week.
Thanks for your nice words as well Puneet. Our year for the domain doesn’t end till June 2005, so we will see what happens then.
To Kunal and Puneet, I am glad that you both really feel that we should keep this domain — that really makes us feel that we are making a difference. 
Money definitely won’t be the issue, it will just be the issue of time. If at that time, we don’t feel that we are able to contribute as much, then it might be time to go.
Par abhi uski dheri hai..isliya no tension! 
November 15th, 2004 at 10:57 am
Hey Poonam,
once u r married (hope it happens soon) u will def not get time to write here but still ppl can always come n read whats already there…
o n u r soooooooooooooooooo right ab knowing n being able to talk so much more on the net then if u would meet the person in real… but well u shud kinda hv the same spark when u meet the person in real or else o o :P
i hv tons of frnds now in real whom i hv met on the net… n they are such close frnds… thankfully even after meetin them its been wonderful n they are still talking to me lol…
have a nice day :)
November 15th, 2004 at 11:01 am
We have only spoken for a small time but you seem like a great guy so its just not possible that your net friends would stop talking to you after meeting you.
One day even Neeraj and I would love to meet you. 
Take care!
November 15th, 2004 at 11:12 am
yeah sure :)
do u know Neeraj works like 45 min fr where i stay :P
u know one reason u shud keep this alive… it might just give someone enuf courage to stay together rather then giving up. u hear a lot of negative things happn… if they hear sthg positive it will just gv their morale a boost… neways thats what i think n thats what makes me come to this blog again n again…
o btw i like the countdown timer u put on top…
November 15th, 2004 at 12:21 pm
Well hey that’s great. Its really a great feeling that the words that we say helps someone else.
In a way that’s what was one of our goals when we started the weblog. I am glad that there is something here that keeps bringing you back…aate rehna jarur. 
Do you like the countdown? I think it was time for it.
Now I will call my travel agency tomorrow to find out when they will be sending me my airline tickets! 
November 15th, 2004 at 12:29 pm
yups only 45 min… the place hiranandani is beautiful n am sure u gonna like it…
sure we will meet… and i dont drink coffee :P but thats ok…
hey where r u going to be other then bombay ?
November 15th, 2004 at 12:31 pm
Neeraj tells me that Hirenandani is a great place! I have never been so it will be great to see.
I am only coming for three weeks so we will definitely go to Neeraj’s home to meet his parents. Otherwise I plan to spend the rest of the time in Mumbai with family and Neeraj.
November 15th, 2004 at 12:49 pm
wonderful :) yeah lunch sounds good too… am off to bed… u hv a nice day !
November 15th, 2004 at 2:47 pm
nice post…
yes..it does take an effort to get into a relationship and then stick to ur decision and enjoying every moment is what happens naturally…
Could never imagine myself being into even a long distance…but in the end…it doesnt even matter:-)
November 15th, 2004 at 3:52 pm
So true Priya. At the end it really doesn’t matter. Just getting though it (this initial phase) then everything is smooth sailing.
November 15th, 2004 at 11:35 pm
Arre wah fantastic!! So now you have a little countdown too. ONly 38 days left, all excited na
November 16th, 2004 at 8:40 am
Hiranandani Beautifully constructed and maintained
I remember going to hiranandani 4-5 months ago with one of my college friend who had gone to meet one of his friend in IIT which is there only, Hiranandani the Building and the Environment is beautifully Constructed and well…
November 16th, 2004 at 9:36 am
November 16th, 2004 at 10:49 am
May 15th, 2005 at 9:11 pm
WOW@ I read this post for the first time….and I must say that it is TRUE! whatever you wrote. I agree wholeheartedly with what you say that love isnt easy, and I am sure both of you have been through lots of obstacles. But then like you said, staying together through these obstacles and not giving up is what it takes. once again, all the best to the two of you for your life ahead.
May 16th, 2005 at 3:43 pm