Test Drive and Marriage?
This was a question that was posed in a section of the Sunday newspaper called the Parade, People write questions to Marilyn vos Savant, who is listed in the Guinness Book of World Records Hall of Fame for the “Highest IQ”.
Few people would buy a car without a test drive. Many feel the same way about marriage: They wouldn’t get married until having sex with the intended person first, to determine if they are sexually compatible and if they enjoy each other when making love. Do you think people should each out in tihs way before marriage?
I have had this discussion with a bunch of friends before too in which many, even my desi friends, believe that one should “test drive” to ensure that they are compatible. I totally disagree where I believe that if you love a person then that sexual compatibility will also exist.
Here is what Marilyn has to say:
Moral issues aside, if you want to test drive your intended spouse, you’re not in love with him or her. If you were, you would have only desire, not doubt. As anyone who has been in love knows, having sex isn’t comparable to making love. And if you’re not in love, you shouldn’t get married:!:
Great answer! Bravo! I couldn’t have said it better myself. 
So many people are caught up on having sex that they really forget about the emotions behind it. Its a great eye opener to many…after all how many times will you test drive??? After a while, you won’t even remember what you were testing.
Chalo bahut ho gaya for today.
Alvida. Jai Mata Di.
May 18th, 2005 at 1:15 am
lol !
a good post ! and a good reply… i agree with marilyn whoever she is…
do half (or more then that) of the teenagers even know what love is? its just sex for them all the way… i wonder if after tooo much testing they would actually enjoy it with the one they want to settle down…
i specially like the last line :P
cheers !
May 18th, 2005 at 4:15 am
Totally agree … having sex and making love are different things … When you do making love, your feeling involved …
Making love can be done with someone whom you love.
Making love is a very big decision and I believe if you do it after getting married, you will appreciate it more …. :)
May 18th, 2005 at 9:45 am
Haa… this is a qn which most of Indian ppl won’t agree (I think so… cos things have changed alot here too)…
I agree with u Poonam.. its all got to do with our love not lust…. having sex is jus lust but making love is with feelings…
I would surely reserve that after marriage.. But if my girlfriend is Mallika sherawat
then, would have to reverse my decision…. 
Poonam did u check her photos in Cannes with Jackie Chan, if u’ve seen.. then u know why am telling u this..
God only can save her…..
May 18th, 2005 at 12:41 pm
and yeah!ofcourse love making and sex are like two different entities all together…first one any two non related human beings can up into and the latter one is among the people who are emotionally tied too…
May 18th, 2005 at 2:58 pm
Well said, Marilyn!
Love is all about emotions and sex comes really down the lane. You need to know the person inside out before u even thinking about sex. I might be conservative on this issue, but I totally oppose sex before marriage. We need to follow the chronology in life of doing right things at right time.
May 18th, 2005 at 8:34 pm
Totally agreed! I mean sex without love is only lust and ONLY lust has no reason to be in a marriage, and if there is love, the compatibility will come automatic> And anyways, where there is love, sex or no sex shouldnt matter. I mean it is necessary for procreation, but you get what I mean…
May 18th, 2005 at 10:28 pm
Definitely agree Mona.
Well said! 
No one can save Mallika Sherawat Prasad, not even God.
If she ever becomes the Women Ambassador for India…I will consider myself to be from Nepal. 
I think you have more character Prasad and for that reason only you deserve a much better girlfriend than Mallika will ever be. 
Yup totally agree Indu.
That’s an interesting Tamilian movie on a very bold topic. Seems that it provides a very good message. 
I agree Mannat. I am also against sex before marriage.
Just like live-in relationships, sex before marriage is something else that i really don’t understand. 
Why take the risk and why not just get married? 
Agree with you totally. 
I know what you mean Kaush.
Intimacy is only part of the relationship, not the whole relationship. Good point. 
March 10th, 2006 at 1:29 am
So the deal is,
There are a number of aspects of marriage, of course a lot more than having sex. Having a test-drive to check compatibility, an absurd idea!
If someone immensely enjoy having sex with a pros, why doesn’t that person marry that pros? The scene is almost similar here.
You cannot marry a person if he/she is too much of an overkill for your daily life needs, even if he/she is great in the bed.
March 10th, 2006 at 8:38 pm