Reminiscing From One Year
Sometimes when you are in love you think that waiting months or a year so that you can be together with that special person seems like an eternity.
Last night as I was going to sleep, I was trying to think where Neeraj and I were at last year during this time. Its amazing to think that our parents hadn’t met yet, and there were so many incertainities to what would happen next. I remember my mother telling me that shaadi toh do saal baad hogi (your marriage will be in two years only), and I replying back saying ke do saal main nahi rukne wali (I won’t wait two years).
But now look at us. That one year has passed — but one thing is for sure, if you want something to happen, you have to do it yourself.
Neeraj and I took the intiative of having our parents meet while they were in India (they wouldn’t have met if we would have not said anything). We made the decision in India that we were going to apply for K-1 visa (our parents wouldn’t have given us this advice to do it), and it was us that went through the toils and turmoils to ensure that we are together (otherwise today we would be saat samundar paar — living that life that we have felt was a burden on our relationship).
I am not saying that our parents aren’t happy with our relationship. They are very happy but because it was Neeraj and I have chosen each other, they feel that its up to us to take the first step on everything. We kept them informed throughout the steps we took, but it was us that came up the ideas.
I don’t say that I agree with our parents thinking. As Neeraj and I discuss about how we would have handled the situation differently if our daughter/son was in our situation; we both agreed that we would have supported them wholeheartedly. If they choose their partner then we will do everything is needed to be done if it would have been an arranged marriage.
Both set of parents wanted us to have an arranged marriage in our own respective communities, but 20 years from now we don’t know how life is going to be, but we know that we shall support our children in a way where they will never feel that they have to do everything on their own.
Live and learn — I guess that’s the only way to live.
Alvida. Jai Mata Di.
October 23rd, 2005 at 12:26 pm
bingo… got gold this time :)
October 23rd, 2005 at 12:27 pm
October 23rd, 2005 at 12:39 pm
Exactly, time just flies away… about a 18-20 months before, I didn’t even had a good enuf idea what Tan even thinks of me… !!
I believe in destiny.. jo hona hai.. woh hona hi hai..!! we can just keep doing what we want to do… its upto the almighty how he helps us to find our way!
BTW, was amused to read that u guys are thinking what’s its going to be like 20 yrs in the future… sahi hai!! i don’t even know what’s its gonna be like tomorrow, leave alone 20 yrs :p
October 23rd, 2005 at 5:06 pm
Very well said. And kudos to both of you for supporting each other and making sure you got through all the hurdles that life flung at you :)
October 23rd, 2005 at 10:46 pm
Bilkul sahi kaha hai Poonam. Almost all the times we ourselves have to initiate and go through with what we want accomplished! You and Neeraj have done a lot together with each pthers support! After all, one cannot just sit and wait for obstacles to go away..one has to take the steps to get rid of each obstacle right?
Great going!
October 23rd, 2005 at 10:50 pm
haha just noticed something..Manpreet’s comments on your blog and your comments on his are the same number..403! wah!
October 24th, 2005 at 12:02 am
right u r Poonam…it’s upto us to make things happen…and with God blessings, they’ll surely be a success…
btw, wanted to ask u something…will mail u abt it…it’s abt Accenture, i got selected y’day and they’ve given me the offer letter…
October 24th, 2005 at 8:11 am
Beautifully said Poonam…I was reminded of our efforts for our parents to meet…and we made things happen practically as in ur case the engagement too…but once they met everything started fallingin right place!
I hope and pray to see u guys happily married andhave a wonderful life together!
October 24th, 2005 at 5:36 pm
time flies..
abhi engagement ho rahi hai…and before u know it will be marriage time soon…
:). best wishes
October 25th, 2005 at 8:15 am
It’s so true Poonam
When we want something, we must do it ourselves, we need to do the initiative. We must have a strong will and do something or we will miss the chance 
October 25th, 2005 at 8:55 am
our own initiative gives us greater satisfaction… dont you think so?
ab dekhna, time will fly past…. abhi shaadi aa jayegi, then life will move forward and before you know ur kid will be in school and u’d be helping out with his/her homework, the next thing you know the brat wud be in college and then uski shaadi and then u’d become grandma-grandpa with your hair all white thinking about ur own marriage and how it happened as you witness ur grandchild having her/his wedding!
all the very best!
October 26th, 2005 at 2:15 am
my god ! anat has already made u a grandma ! wah wah…
October 28th, 2005 at 2:15 am
Congrats Neeraj n Poonam
Manpreet… did you receive the tickets
Right Kunal
BTW Kunal are you really ‘not on the desk’ when your messenger indicates so :???:
October 30th, 2005 at 1:25 pm
Thanks Ashwin.
Thanks Kaush.
Definitely have to face through the obstacles and that is what we have learned. Noticed the same comment thing too! Isn’t that odd?? 
Thanks Vidhi!
Hope all is well with you @ Accenture. 
Thanks Indu.
Good to hear that someone else also had to work hard to make their relationship work. 
Thanks Vicky.
Time will be here soon.
Yup you are right Mona.
Oh goodness Anat.
You have gotten wayyyyy ahead of us. 
Yes, I noticed Kunal.
Crazy!
Thanks Ankur.
Usually he is there but he doesn’t want anyone to know that he is there so that’s why he writes “Not at my Desk”. Style ki baat hai. 